DENIAL PATTERNS

I have difficulty identifying how I'm feeling
 
I minimize or deny how I truly feel
 
I percieve myself unselfish and dedicate myself to helping others
 
I can take care of myself without the help of others
 
I mask my pain with anger humour or isolation
 
I express negative emotion with passive aggression
 
 
'CONTROL PATTERNS'

'I believe people are incapable of taking care of themselves'
 
I try to convince others how they should think or feel.
 
I become resentful when others won't let me help them.
 
I freely offer advice n direction without being asked.
 
I have to be needed to have relationships with others
 
I demand my needs be met by others
 
I use charm n charisma to convince others of my capacity to be caring and compassionate
 
I adopt an attitude of indifference, helplessness, or rage to manipulate outcomes
 
I refise to compromise co operate or negotiate
 
I pretend to agree with others to get what I want

 
COMPLIANCE PATTERNS
 
I am extreemly loyal remaining in harmful situations too long
 
I compromise my own integrity n values to avoid rejection or others' anger.
 
I value others' opinions n feelings more than my own and am afraid to express differing opinions
 
I'm afraid to express my opinions when they differ from others
 
I put aside my own interests n hobbies in order to do what others want
 
I accept sex or sexual atten tion when I want love.
 
I make decisions without egard for the consequences
 
I give up my truth to gain the approval of others or to avoid change.